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//Generally speaking it means that he still wants to have sex with you without the commitment. If he wants space give him space. Doesn't mean you can't be happy to see him or enjoy his company, but do not give him the benefits that come with a relationship if he's not willing to be in one (ie: sex, financial support or co-habitation).
I would say act like you're dating, but not dating exclusively him. Make plans with your friends, don't be quite so available, be open to meeting other people, and just in general start moving on and see how he feels about that. If you just hang around, put your life on hold and come running to every booty call, then all you teach him is that you are desperate and will put up with whatever terms he wants to dictate and he learns how far he can push you. This may not be his concious thought process, but your actions will determine what he learns about your limits and your tolerance for his behavior. In short maintain your self-respect and don't allow him to push your boundaries for fear that you might lose him. Best wishes!


//if you find it very hard to give him space, try to pretend he is out of town or somehow unreachable. when someone wants space, or time alone, it is not necessarily a reflection of your behavior or how he feels about you. it may be he needs to assess himself and his needs as an individual and it is hard to do so while involved in a serious relationship. just as there may be a time for you to "need space" to regroup as a person rather than as a partner or lover or girlfriend or daughter or mother or whatever, others may need time away from their regular daily activities to get a better idea of what they want to accomplish with their life.


//im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. it started out perfect, he was crazy about me and i was everything to him. we used to see each other once a week out of dance lessons, but speak loads and also see each other in dance lessons. we got closer and closer and started spending a little more time together.
i soon realized i was madly in love with him. we'd never argued in that whole time, hes gorgeous and always treated me perfectly and told me he loved me. he came on holiday with me and my parents to spain after 10 months of being together, and he confessed that he thought i was the 'one' for him and he never wanted to lose me and wanted me to be his forever. by this point we'd never done anything remotly sexual except kiss. so i knew that was not all he wanted. i fell more in love with him and said i felt the same.
in the september we started fooling around sexually and that brought us closer and made us want each other even more. everything was still amazing. but when he started college things changed a little. he got this friend, a girl, who at first i hated and suspected something was going on because of the amount of time they spent together, and this caused me and him arguments and i always got upset. he had a go at me and told me he would never see her like that they are friends and if he liked her he wouldnt be with me. i trust him and believe him even still. but then problems started to grow. i began to get upset if he cancelled his plans on me and id be nasty to him, because i wasnt used to it and wanted him. this made him really angry and caused more arguments.
one night he went out with this girl mate of his and because i was upset he'd cancelled on me and was nasty again, he text me saying 'were finished' after a long hard cry, a million texts and fonecalls he admitted its not what he really wanted and that he did want to be with me, he just had a moment. so we were still together. in the january we finally slept together. no matter the tiny little problems we were having we were still in love and this made us even closer and he whispered to me 'id only do this because i love you'... we started spending more time together, stay in eachothers about 2 times a week and see each other randomly other days. i still started getting annoyed if he cancelled or upset if he went on and on about this other friend of his. this still made him really annoyed with me. he's still said only a few weeks ago that he wants me forever and doesnt want me to leave him, we've promised each other that.
but about two weeks ago he started asking me for some space. because of my moods and because he thought we were spending too much time together, he just said i need a little space. 'dont finish me' i said and he said 'im not baby i just need a little bit of space'.. so i let him have that and for the next few days i didnt call him or text him as much as i normally would, i left him to be with his friends and didnt mention anything about coming round or anything. then on the monday of last week he asked me to come round tuesday.. ahaa great he's chasing after me! i thought. and he was staying in mine on the wednesday aswel. tuesday night was great we didnt argue and had a fun night in.
wednesday was a different story though. he had just got a new phone and wouldnt put it down and kept texting and wasnt speaking to me, this annoyed me because he was in my house and wasnt saying a word. so i asked him to leave it alone and he got irritated. he then put it down and went all silent and was just staring at the wall. i asked him what was up and he said nothing, im just thinking. and i said about what? and he said us. i instantly started crying because i thought he was going to finish me. n said baby please dont and he said dont what and i said end this and he said im not im not.. i just dont think its working. i couldnt stop crying and i said it is working and he said 'maybe for you but not me. like i feel like im trapped down in a relationship and cant breath because you always make me be with you and if i cant you get upset or moody and i cant take it.' and i said im sorry and that id change that and he said he needed more space. he said a part of him thinks he should move on but he said he cant because he loves me so much and he is part of my family and so close to me. he also said if anything did happen that he'd never want me out his life, we'd still be best friends and he'd still come round and stuff but i simply cant do that because id want him more than a friend.
i was just crying and crying. he was being lovely about it and telling me not to cry, wiping the tears away and cuddling me but i just couldnt stop. he said 'just give me a week then, thursday to thursday lets not do anything outside dance'. so i said ok.. so were not together for a week? and he said no i dont want to be with anyone else were still together i just dont think we should spend this time together this week. so i agreed and said itl hurt me and he said hurting me was the last thing he wanted. i said id give him as much time as he needed but that i didnt think it was worth splitting up for, i just think we should spend less time togther like we used to when we were happy. and he agreed with me. i said do you still love me and he said of course i do and kissed me.
we kissed quite a lot that night. didnt have sex but we were happy toether and he said he felt better already. we were cuddling a lot and fell asleep happy. when he was leaving my house the next day i began to cry again saying i was worried and he jus took my head in his hands and said dont worry i love you ok? and i nodded and he said its only a week. that night i was so upset because i was scared he wouldnt want me at the end of the week.its only two days later and i'm still crying a lot.
today in dance he was annoyed at me because i didnt like his new haircut, i made a silly joke which he laughed at at first and then he turned it into something it wasnt. at times he was okay with me but others he was off with me. i dont get it as he was being so lovely about it on the wednesday night.he said he wants me to just leave him alone for a week, still text/ring him but dont speak about the break. i cant help it though because i just want to tell him i want to get through this and i'm sorry for annoying him and everythin but i dont want to drive him away.
my friends have told me not to worry and think it will be okay and that we will still be togther after this week because he's still saying he loves me but i cant help but think negative. i actually cannot see my life without him its been so long and its amazing. he makes me the happiest person in the world, i miss him all the time and truely think we still have something incredable. iv never been so close to anyone before and the thought of losing him makes me want to die. im in love with him i really am, i cannot function without him.
im starting to get ill though. i cant eat properly and feel sick when i get upset over him which is most of the time. i just want to be with him and am petrefied he is going to break up with me next thursday. i cant let him go i'm too in love.i try to not text him or ring him as much but i cant help it sometimes because i dont want him to forget how it is to have me there telling him i love him and stuff.
if there is anyone who could give me some advice on how to keep us together and to make me happier please help. i cant do anything anymore i have lost interest in a lot of things because i cant stop thinking and worrying over him. hes my baby and i really cant let him go. please help


//Okay...let me tell you first of all that I am an old lady...I am 44 and that is most likely ancient to you. But I do remember being 17 and feeling what you are feeling. Can I tell you now that you will feel this many times over?
You are giving your boyfriend a whole lot of power and control over you that he probably does not want. There is some stupid saying about holding sand...if you squeeze too tightly...the sand leaves your hand. But if you hold it gently, you can keep holding onto it.
When you say things like that you can't let go or you couldn't handle if he broke up with you...I worry.
Do not let this experience make you feel sick or depressed.
I am going to suggest things you may not want to do but...you have to find focus in other things outside of this young man. He will enjoy you more if you are not so focused upon him each and every moment.
Let him come to you. You must be prepared that he may choose to go. Allow him that option and I bet he will come to you. If not...it is better that you know now and can move on.
You have so much life ahead. He may be the one or he may be teaching you things for your future. Remember this time...it goes so very fast.


//I'm in the same position as you. However I'm 16 and he's 18. It's down to fine details though and I know how hard this for you.
You can't bare to be alone can you.. The thought of sitting there without him kills you.. You want to spend every minute of the day with him, telling him you love him more than anything every few minutes. Being in his arms is the only comfort you seem to find.. The thought of being without him.. makes you feel like your not whole.
When he tells you he needs space... you go almost over the top.. begging desperately.. and looking a little bit scary to him.. making him want to leave even more.
One thing you have to remember is that he loves you.
I know how scary it is when someone that means alot to you has a friendship with someone else! I know how jealous you get! I also know that it eats you up all of the time. How dare she be with him! He means the world to you. How dare she get the privelege of his presence. You know how amazing he is don't you, the things noone else notices, I know you do.
I know.. I feel the same, what you've said made me cry to be honest.
All I can say is.
Absense makes the heart grow fonder :P
I mean, I know it's said alot but it's so true.
You want to know why everything was AMAZINGGG before you spent so much time together..
because you had to WAIT for it.. and so when you were together... you made the most of every single minute.
Waiting for the first cuddle and kiss, was hard.. but when you got it .. it was great.
My advice to you is just that when he talks about the girl.. bite your tongue.
Seriously. Unless he cheats or gives reason not to trust him, let him talk!!
Think about it rationally.. Your close to him! He is going to tell you stuff.
You should be more worried if he ain't telling you nothing.
He's been with you this long. You have a bond and it scares you that it could break.
Even though it looks as if this situation is down to him.. It's up to you.
Don't text him or call him. Let him contact you.
When he does. Tell him your going out.. To have a girly night, just go enjoy your time!!
If he see's you smiling your jobs almost done.
He loves you! All he wants is to see you happy.
From his point of view he's scared too. He feels like nothing he can do can make you happy.. which would worry someone who tries really hard. Space is what he thinks YOU need. Not him.
Prove to him that your ready to get back on track, keep smiling and be positive.
You might not be together. But you love eachother. That's more special that anything he'll 'have' with that girl.
Good luck. I'll save the page and if you message back, I will too.

Your Boyfriend Says He Needs Space - What You Should and Shouldn't Do If You Want to Keep Him

What's the first thing that happens when your boyfriend says he needs space? If you're anything like me and millions of other women they has happened to, you go into panic mode. You immediately start crying and you try whatever you can think of to make him change his mind. This may include becoming hysterical, yelling and begging him to reconsider. Chances are if you do any of these things, he's still going to leave and he may never come back. If you truly want him back, you've got to get a plan in place to make that happen and you've got to place your emotions aside in order to really be successful.

The one thing you absolutely must do if your boyfriend says he needs space is accept it, for now at least. You've got to show him that you're mature enough to accept change and that you respect him enough to give him what he wants. What you shouldn't do is to try and convince him that he's making the biggest mistake of his life. If you do that he's only going to resist any desire he may have to get back together with you because he won't want to prove you right. Just try and put a smile on your face, for the time being, and tell him that you understand that he needs time. A good way to set things in motion for a future reunion between you two is to tell him that you've been thinking about a break too. This may seem cruel but it actually will work to your advantage since men can't stand rejection.

The next thing you absolutely must do if your boyfriend says he needs space is to follow through with giving him that space. Stop talking to him for at least a few weeks. This means no contact at all. Don't fall into a pit of despair thinking that he's going to meet someone, fall in love with them and marry them within that time frame. He's not. He is going to start to miss you though. He's going to start thinking about all the good times you two shared and he's going to wonder why you aren't trying to chase him and get him back. It will make him start to wonder whether he's losing you for good. It's that wonder that is going to bring him right back to you.

Getting your ex boyfriend back is possible. If you are tired of worrying about a future without him and if you are at a loss about what to do to get him back, there is help. Every move you make and everything you say to him after your break up will either get you a second chance or will ensure he's gone for good. Why risk making a mistake that may cost you a future with the man you love most in the world?

There are proven techniques for getting your ex boyfriend back now. To learn step-by step what you need to do to get your man back. You'll even learn the exact words you need to be saying to him to win his heart back now. This helped me not only get back the man I adore, but it made our relationship stronger than ever. Please don't leave this to fate or chance. If you love him, don't let him get away.

What to do if your boyfriend needs time?

The one thing that many women dread hearing when they are in a relationship is that their boyfriend needs time. When a man says he needs time or space most women instantly see a break up in their future. This isn't always the case, and how a woman reacts to hearing her boyfriend say this can determine the entire outcome of their future together.

The phrase itself has become synonymous with men who want to end their relationships without really addressing the reason. Instead of telling their girlfriend why they no longer care for them, they simply suggest they need time to think or space to sort out their feelings. This is actually the case quite often and as long as a woman understands the steps she should be taking if she's in this situation, she may actually be able to lure him back into more serious commitment than they had before.

First instinct of some women is to burst into tears and beg him to stay. This will do more harm than good if your boyfriend needs time. Instead you have to try and hold back the tears until you are alone and tell him that you agree. Most men have readied themselves for an argument and will be slightly stunned to hear that the woman they've been seeing is in agreement about a separation.

You also must temporarily forget his cell phone number and email address. You'll have the urge to write to him and to pour out your feelings all in an effort to make him see the mistake he's making. Don't do this. Instead make a promise to yourself that you won't initiate any contact with him for at least a couple of weeks. Take it day-by-day. Keep yourself busy by completely focusing on your own life. The time will seem to move slowly but this is an important step in winning him back. Don't falter on this. Remain true to your promise to yourself.

When you do hear from him, don't be too eager to meet up. Let him ask a couple of time first and then when you do talk, allow him to fully express what he's been feeling. In many cases, the time apart will have left an empty spot in his life that can only be filled by you.

There are other conscious steps that every woman needs to take if she wants to get her ex boyfriend back. Doing the wrong thing can mean the end of the relationship forever.

Don't give up on him if you believe he's the man you are meant to be with. There are specific methods you can use that will make you irresistible to him again.

How To Not Care What People Think

1. Understand that the less you care what people think of you, the more they will like you. Why? Because no matter how much pressure there seems to be to become "normal", people like personality. People like other people that have something different about them. Personality means having something that sets you apart from other people. Quiet, dreary, "normal" people have a hard time making friends because, well, they're normal. There's nothing that sets them apart, and nothing that grabs peoples' attention. So, developing yourself and your personality gives people a reason to talk to you.
2. Learn to accept yourself for who you are and what you look like. That's the most important thing!
3. Think about why others might be judging you. What must their lives be like? Are they envious of you or even attracted to you? They might just have taken a dislike to you. Never mind these people - get them completely out of your life.
4. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror and say this aloud: "I am (me). I love myself, accept myself and those who judge my exterior will find it harder to know my interior".
5. Smile at those who judge you, if you feel like smiling (but don't fake it). Don't smile broadly as it will look like you want them to know something they don't. Just give a care-free, relaxed, gentle smile - but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to look at them. If people see you happy about something they will gather that you have a lot going for you in your life. It's the little gestures like that mean a lot.
6. Don't strive to become popular at school/work. If you don't care what people think about you, there's no reason why you should try to become popular.
7. Observe the people that are measuring your actions - don't be afraid to look someone in the eye. Note how ridiculous what they are doing actually is - why are they acting like that? Realise that if you are "worthless" then they are as equally nugatory as well.
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   Collect yourself. This world is for you, and it is for your neighbours as well, so make the best out of your experiences. Instead of pointing out the bad things about a situation, think and note the good things about it. "Look on the bright side" as they say.
9. Do what you want to do. If you have a phone or Nintendo DS, play a game or write a message to someone. If you like to do crossword puzzles, do some. If you like to do Sudoku, go ahead!
10. Don't be pretentious. Just because being carefree is ultimately necessary in a society of "robots", doesn't mean you have to overdo it "robot" style. For example, when you get the opportunity to make a friend, don't just blow them off because "you're a rebel and you don't care what they think".
11. Keep a diary. Each time you're feeling down, write a journal entry about it. When you're feeling better you can look back at the entry and think, "How did this pain make me stronger?"
12. Do not worry about how you walk or how you appear to others.
13. Once again, DO NOT try to become popular. People can smell desperation from a mile away. If they think you're trying too hard, they may want to push you around for fun just to see how far you'll go. Remember, you don't want to become the popular crowds' little lap dog, licking their feet and begging to bring them their coffee so that you'll seem like you belong.
14. Have faith in yourself If you lose faith in yourself, then why should anyone else have faith in you. Remember nobody can take your faith in yourself

How to Save Your Relationship by Knowing How Not to Spend Too Much Time Together With Your Partner

It is common to hear of couples being joined to the hip. But spending too much time together can hurt a relationship. Therefore, you should not spend too much time together with your partner so as to minimize potential conflicts.

There must be a healthy balance between ME (individual needs) and US (needs of relationship). This can be shown using a simple equation:

"ME + ME = US"

Too much "ME" can result in you and your partner drifting apart, while too much "US" can stifle your partner, causing resentment and undesirable conflicts.

So how do you nurture your individuality? You can:

1. indulge in an activity that you enjoy alone.

2. hang out with your friends. Update them on what has been going on in your life. It will be easier for your friends to accept your partner into your social circle this way.

3. spend the weekends with your families.

How much "ME" time you need depends on what you and your partner are comfortable with. For example, some couples seem to do well spending every waking moment together. To really understand the amount of "ME" time you need,

1. talk to your partner about how much time you prefer to spend with each other on a daily or weekly basis.

2. acknowledge and understand your partner's commitments outside your relationship. If need be, give your partner more space.

3. trust your partner and be confident with yourself. Make changes if what you have tried is not working.

However exciting it is to spend time together, remember that there are places to be and things both of you have to do.

Your world should never revolve around one person or relationship.

How to wake up early

Here is 9 most practical reasons for you to wake up early and things to do.

1. Work on yourself

Early morning is an excellent time for personal development. How many times you complained you don't have time to read that self-improvement book, learn new language or try new idea? Get up early and work on it in the morning! Quiet morning time is a god sent gift which you should use for growing yourself - professionally, emotionally, phisically, mentally and spiritually. Use this time to "sharpen the saw".

2. Exercise your body

Do I really need to comment on this reason? Body is the only thing you have in your control in this universe. So exercise at home, go jogging or go to gym (they open early), practice yoga training... The earlier you wake up, the more calories you can burn over the day and the better you will feel.

3. Get ready for big stuff

Clean up small stuff to take it from your way to big things you plan to do during the day. Jump on that bunch of emails sitting in your inbox so it doesn't drag your attention later in the day. Do those tasks you keep procrastinating on, and put a plan in advance of what and when you are going to do on this day.

4. Increase your productivity

If you start early, you make your day longer, you can do much more in one day than you usually do. Got a lot of work pressing on you? Wake up earlier, jump to work, you may be done by the afternoon...

5. Use morning time for thinking

Jim Citrin wrote: "The quiet of the morning is often the time when your mind is at its clearest and most well-suited to solving important problems". Read his article Tapping the Power of Your Morning Routine to get more insight on how valuable morning time can be. In the same article Jim reports that 80% of executives he questioned wake up at 5:30am or earlier. I believe it's what made them executives, though I know few occasions when it worked in the opposite way.

6. Go with the nature

The nature wakes up every day when the sun goes up. So should you because your body is a part of the nature! Of course it depends at what time sun goes up in your area (in some areas, it doesn't go down for half a year :-), but you have got the idea... You can double the effect if you go out and spend some morning time with nature surrounding you.

7. Medidate

Meditation induces well-being and emotional balance. If you start your day with meditation you will carry that balance through the day, improving your life. Morning is a better time for meditation because you are fresh, your brain is relaxed and mind is much sharper. The article at PickTheBrain is a good source of information on why you should meditate and how to get started.

8. Beat the traffic

If you spend too much time commuting to and from work every day, you can actually save time if you wake up and drive to work earlier. Even if you work fixed hours, by arriving to work earlier you can spend the extra time you've got on things listed above - reading, exercising, planning, and so on. It's free time for you, which otherwise you would waste in traffic jams. This advice was contributed by Rusty.

9. Do something for others

We all love surprises and you can spend this morning time preparing surprises for other people or just doing something for them. Try to live this extra morning hour for others, not for yourself. Remember, what is given freely with the best of intentions will return in abundance to the giver.

The Secret To Finding, Attracting And Keeping The Right Guy...

Many of your female friends have told you that he was a jerk and not worthy of you. Some of your male friends said that you had probably driven him crazy by looking for problems that didn’t exist. Others had explained that he was there for the sex.

These interpretations were unsatisfying, to say the least. You knew deep inside, that the truth was elsewhere. You neither dated a player, nor invented any problems. You even tried to compromise when a problem or a conflict occurred. However, a good advice was hard to come by, so you kept on doing the same mistakes.

While your girlfriends may have had good intentions (they wanted to comfort and encourage you), it is most likely that they did not understand the problem. To understand what you REALLY did wrong, you need to understand how men think in the first place. The truth is that by blaming the situation on the guy, you actually make things worse.

Instead of ignoring the problem and blaming the guy, wouldn't it be better if you knew exactly what you did wrong and how to attract and keep the man you want? Wouldn't it be better if you knew exactly how to communicate and understand men so you won't lose a great opportunity to have your dream man just because you made a mistake or didn’t know how to handle a specific situation?

But I have some good news for you. I know I can help you find your soft spots, identify the real obstacles that stand in your way to a meaningful relationship, and provide you with powerful tools that will help you better understand men, get them to open up, attract the right partner for you and keep him for good. These tools are the result of a documented 12-year research in which I have interviewed hundreds of women and couples worldwide.

This is a research I have started during my academic years and completed when I was already an experienced dating, marriage and relationship consultant.

The 5 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It...

The research I have conducted has helped me uncover several mistakes that many women are making when approaching, dating, communicating or while having a relationship with men. These critical mistakes are mostly self-repetitive and practically kill any chance a woman might have to reach a deep emotional connection with a man.

• Mistake No #1: Being Needy and Insecure With Your Man.

It's very natural to long for being closer to your partner and even more natural to be afraid of losing him. However, when a woman immediately develops an emotional dependency, the other side tends to back away. Bear in mind, that there's a thin line between needing someone and being emotionally dependable while triggering a man's insecurity alert. Men want to be with a woman, who is aware of her value and makes a free and conscious choice to be with him. When you lead a man to believe you are insecure or needy, you immediately become less attractive and practically kill any chance for a relationship. If a woman doesn’t think that she is worthy of a man's love, why would he think that?

• Mistake No #2: Desperately Trying to Please a Man
  

Most women believe that the best and shortest way to a man's heart is becoming exactly what he wants a woman to be. They think that once the man realizes that no other woman is as good to him as they are - he will act rationally and pick them. The problem is that the choices of the heart are often made irrationally. Surprisingly, many men do not tend to choose a woman that will do anything for them, but tend to pick the one that proves to be the most worthy of his efforts.

• Mistake No #3: Leading a Man to Think You Are Not in Control Over Your Feelings and Your Behavior.

The emotional turmoil that accompanies the process of infatuation is a powerful and addictive experience that most women enjoy to be swept away by. However, when a woman shows lack of control over her feelings, especially when she cannot control her reactions to disappointments, anger and insult - most men might give up at that point. Lack of emotional self-control is the opposite of the ideal stability, harmony and security we all wish to find in a good and long-term relationship.

• Mistake No #4: Choosing a Partner Based On Immediate Attraction.
  

While attraction is a prerequisite condition for any healthy relationship, many women rely completely on physical attraction when it comes to choosing their partners. This is a deadly mistake. The most attractive men are usually good looking, funny, self-confidant and experienced - but not necessarily trustful, reliable or ready for a meaningful relationship. Before spending your precious time and emotional resources on a man who has little to no potential to become your full time emotionally involved partner for life, its imperative that you learn how to quickly analyze a man’s relationship potential. Instead of just judging a man by attraction alone, you want to know how to identify the warning signs of a future bad relationship before wasting your emotions on a man that will leave you heartbroken and discouraged.

• Mistake No #5: Staying In a Relationship With an Emotionally Unavailable Man

Hoping that the routine or a new behavior that you might adopt, will make an emotionally unavailable man to suddenly take interest in you, fall in love with you and commit, is one of the deadliest mistakes you want to avoid if your aim is a long-term, healthy and loving relationship. It’s a fact that many men are capable of staying in a long relationship, even when they know it’s not what they wish for. They simply treat the relationship as one of temporary compromise with low self-involvement while waiting for something better to appear. On the other hand, the woman, who is already developed some feelings, continues to deepen her emotional involvement and wastes precious time and energy on a hopeless relationship that has no potential for growth, commitment or love.

Open Up to Love after Being Hurt

• The worst thing you can do is keep yourself in an endless cycle of relationships. You have to take a breather between relationships. That time in between is necessary to let go of any anger and release the baggage. No one, besides a therapist, wants to deal with you and your problems.
• If a relationship even has a tinge of "I'll get you through this," it is fated to fail because it will be based on neediness. He'll need to help you. You'll need to be helped. You'll hurt him with your words and actions. He'll stick it through because "he loves you." He'll start hurting you. You'll stick with him because "you love him." And it becomes one vicious mess that you could have avoided.
• You are fully empowered to take a break between relationships. It's like a breath of fresh air for your spirit. You get in tune with yourself so you don't become jaded, disillusioned, or embittered. If a man has hurt you in any way in a relationship, do not immediately enter another relationship. Do not even begin to fool yourself and say it's just sexual. That's just a relationship diversion. You have to deal with yourself before you can give yourself, in any capacity, to anyone.
• It's best to know why and what you want from a relationship. Don't try to replace the last man with a new man. Don't try to hurt anyone because you've been hurt. Don't become bitter because the last man was a jerk. What you perceive will become your reality. If, based on your experiences, you think all men are jerks and ain't about nothing, guess what type of men you're going to meet. Your perception is your reality.
• This is not to say that all relationships end so badly that you need time to heal. But even when one ends well you still need to take time for yourself. Comparing your new man to your ex is just as bad as being bitter -- it will ruin the relationship eventually. So always take time for yourself before dating or entering new relationships.
• Once you have allowed yourself to heal and you're no longer thinking about your ex or comparing other men to him, then you can consider dating. But always go into a relationship fresh. Leave behind the baggage and don't expect the new man to be a jerk or a dog.
• Expect the best treatment. Expect the best relationship. Don't become intimate immediately and don't start thinking this is the one. Get to know the man you're dealing with. Get to know him as your friend. Learn how to trust. Learn how to love. But do it slowly. Don't rush. A solid relationship needs a foundation of friendship, trust, respect, honesty, and love. It takes time to develop those qualities in each other.
• You can open yourself up to love, but know that love must be reciprocal. You will love him and he will love you. You will not need each other, but you will want each other. Love is not needy. Love is not possessive. Love is something that makes your life better and makes you feel happy.

Lesson:
Take a breather between each relationship to renew your spirit. It will give you time to know yourself and empower you to make better choices in relationships.

All things about CAPRICORN woman

CAPRICORN woman

• Capricornian females are independent in nature and rely on no one to fulfill their desires and wishes. They are ready to work hard to get what all they want. Ambitious, they would not settle until they have lots of money in the bank, a few solid investments and their own home.
• Capricorn woman exerts extreme self control, which is just the key for the success she gets in life.
• Capricorn woman loves to be complimented by her man and strive towards the same. She can be a little unpredictable at times, switching emotions more frequently than usual.
• Capricorn woman are hard-working and love to be in commanding positions.

• Capricorn gals usually dress beautifully and always look chic and elegant. They are also very particular about the way they look and take utmost care for themselves.
• They love to be busy and take life seriously, working hard day in and day out to overcome obstacles and lead a life of happiness and contentment.
• The Capricorn woman is as romantic and emotional as anyone else, but can be somewhat inhibited in expressing her emotions, typically preferring to perform practical tasks to help loved ones in preference to making purely romantic gestures.
• She will be exceptionally cautious of making a commitment until she knows that your traits and lifestyle are compatible with hers. She is very cautious by nature, and not one to rush into anything, so again don't be misled if her interest appears mainly platonic initially.
• Down to earth, practical, ambitious, driven, patient, self disciplined and responsible.
• A Capricorns greatest strength is the ability to set goals and pursue them until attained. Nothing gets in the way of a Capricorns plans and ambitions, and they don’t like taking shortcuts or cheating – as either devalues their later satisfaction.
• Capricorns like to plan their every move, weighing all the pros and cons of any issue in advance, and often rehearsing exactly what they want to say before they say it. They are dependable, particularly in a crisis, though they dislike chaos and unpredictability. When asked, they give sound, practical advice. As a rule they’re not aggressive people, and only express hostility as a defense.
• Security is very important to this woman, and for this reason she may prefer an older and more established lover, or at least a mentally mature one. She admires those who are hard-working or have ambition, and has very little tolerance for lazy people, and overall enjoys the company of optimists over pessimists.
• Your Capricorn woman is likely to be a very adventurous lover, which may come as a suprise when compared to her otherwise restrained and stand-offish exterior. Contrary to her cool demeanor she is remarkably playful in bed, and will prefer ‘fun’ sex to the heavy or serious. She will also enjoy laughing in bed, and appreciate a sense of humor. Don’t be surprised if she mentions making love at either your place of work or hers, it seems to be a common fantasy with Capricorns!
• Capricorns are extremely cautious when falling in love. They like to be in charge - of both their lives and relationships. Capricorns would rather wait for someone who adores and cherishes them rather than make the wrong choice. They are not conventional romantics, but certainly have their charming ways, which can win your heart.
• You may not be able to tell it from her actions, but for a Capricorn woman, love is a very serious matter. She is the least likely of all signs to fall in love at first sight. If a man is not her type, she quickly discards him.
• When she does find one she is interested in, she will observe him closely before allowing him to get emotionally close to her. If you hope to woo her, be prepared for it to take some time. She is looking for a man who will admire and treasure her, yet not make her give up her own life and goals.
• She is shy and reserved, but filled with common sense and strong inner strength.
• Her hesitancy to commit and domineering ways often find her unlucky in love, which is a shame. When a man can understand and respect her, he will find she is filled with wonderful values. She is loyal, trustworthy, passionate, and supportive.

• The general nature of a Capricorn woman displays a go-getter attitude. Such women have the natural tendency to be aggressive about work and display good analytical skills. She is very methodical in her manner of work. This is probably what gives the Capricorn woman more success at work. She also shows signs of a good memory, so maybe you would need to be sure about the things you say to her!
• Experts in astrology opine the Capricorn woman can be the right person for the position of a manager. Their ability to think clearly combined with a firm attitude probably can help them gain this position with ease! An ambitious goal with a positive attitude helps them to climb the ladder of success.
• A Capricorn woman is a modest person who may not seem very easy to approach in the beginning. She is rather cautious in her demeanor. She may have few but intimate friends with whom she shares a great rapport. She would not appear to be very talkative and would only speak when necessary. She may be really witty on one hand where as suddenly quiet on the other. You would surely need to be on your toes to keep pace with her ever-changing moods.
• She loves the feeling of security so men in love with a Capricorn woman would surely need to think about it! She would display all her love and passion once she feels secure she has met the right man in her life. This headstrong woman believes in relationships that are for keeps and would prefer to build a strong foundation of love.
• A Capricorn woman is quite cautious about her money matters as well. She loves to concentrate on her investments and is quite economical in her approach towards daily expenditures. Although this woman is career minded, she does love a family life. She would readily settle with the right man when she wills and loves to take care of children and family. A Capricorn woman would also be an excellent homemaker.
  
• It is advisable not to tease a Capricorn girl; she may take it too literally.
• Show her that you appreciate her and make her feel secure. It will help her in opening up and showing her deliberately controlled passion.
• As a mother, she will teach the kids discipline, economy, practicality, etiquettes and respect for elders. Make her feel loved, protected, needed and cared for and in return, she will support you in realizing your dreams and give you a deep, lasting love!
• The Capricorn is the strong friend, they will always be there to help, they are very sympathetic, caring and helpful to a friend in need. A Capricorn will get someone back on their feet again with a steady plan for success and for all this, they expect nothing in return. The Capricorn friend is deep and mysterious and full of intrigue, there always seems to be something going on in their mind.
• Capricorns have this sense of melancholy and necessity for structure and work because inside they feel they are unworthy and need to continuously prove their worth.
• Capricorns are loners but they also need to feel appreciated, but they are excellent at hiding this truth.
• Capricorns are very ambitious people, they always have something they are pursuing and they want their lives to be fulfilled and important.
• Capricorns are extremely patient and will wait a long time for something they want, when the opportunity arises, they will plan their steps carefully to others, they might appear hesitant but this is not true, they know that there is only one chance to succeed and they are filing together their information to take the proper steps to accomplish their goal with flying colors, not just second rate
• Capricorns have a very active mind and strong powers of concentration. Capricorns like being in control of their surroundings and everyone in their life.
• They are very tolerant in their relationships and extremely possessive of their loved ones.
• You will always find them standing by your side when you need support.

Lesson Of Love

Each person who enters our life has a unique lesson to teach us. And it is only through these lessons that we learn about life, people, relationship and God.

When someone lies to you, it teaches you that things are not always as they seem. The truth is often far beneath the surface. Look beyond the masks people wear if you want to know their heart. And remove your own masks to let people know yours.

When someone steals from you, it teaches you that nothing is forever. Always appreciate what you have, for you never know when you might lose it. And never ever take your friends

and family for granted because today is the only guarantee you have.

When someone inflicts an injury upon you, it teaches you that the human state is a fragile one. Protect and take care of your body as best you can; it's the only thing you are sure to have forever.

When someone mocks you, it teaches you that no two people are alike. When you encounter people who are different from you, don't judge them by how they look or act; instead base your opinion on the contents of their heart.

When someone breaks your heart, it teaches you that loving someone does not always mean that person will love you back. But don't turn your back on love ecause when you find the right person, the joy that one person brings will make up for all the past hurts put together -- times ten!!!!

When someone holds a grudge against you, it teaches you that everyone makes mistakes. When you are wronged, the most virtuous thing you can do is forgive the offender without pretense. Forgiving those who have hurt us is the most difficult and courageous thing
anyone can do.

When a loved one is unfaithful to you, it teaches you that resisting temptation is man's greatest challenge. Be vigilant in your resistance against all temptation. By doing so you, will be rewarded with an enduring sense of satisfaction far greater than the temporary pleasure by which you were tempted.

When someone cheats on you, it teaches you that greed is the root of all evil. Aspire to make your dreams come true, no matter how lofty they may be. Do not feel guilty about our success, but never let an obsession with achieving your goals lead you to engage in malevolent activities.

When someone ridicules you, it teaches you that nobody is perfect. Accept people for their merits and be tolerant of their flaws. Do not ever reject someone for imperfections over which they have no control.

What about lessons to be learned from Man's good deeds?

When someone loves us, it teaches us that love, kindness, charity, honesty, humility, forgiveness and acceptance can counteract all the evil in the world. For every good deed, there is one less evil deed. Man alone has the power to control the balance between good and evil, but because the lessons of love are not taught often enough, the power is too often abused.

When you enter someone's life, whether by plan, chance or coincidence, consider what your lesson will be. Will you teach love or a harsh lesson of reality? When you die, will your life have
resulted in more loving or hurting? More comfort or pain? More joy or sadness?

Each one of us has power over the balance of love in the world. Use it wisely. Don't miss an opportunity to nudge the world's scale in the right direction.

All things about LIBRA man

LIBRA man traits

Libra is an air sign, symbolizing scales. As this zodiac sign is ruled by the planet Venus, Libra men are said to be believers of love, romance and beauty. Libra men, like their symbol, always try to balance things around them. There is also a sense of justice that prevails in the mind of Libra men, and they apply this in every area of life, even in love. They like to analyze every situation carefully before making any decision. This makes them true believers of justice and fairness, as they go to any extent to find the truth. However, this also makes them indecisive and they often avoid taking any stance. Due to this, they are said to be diplomatic. Besides these, characteristics of the Libra man also include compassion and charisma.

• Libra guys are very appreciative of beautiful things, and they understand that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
• They have the ability to woo women very easily with their talks and heart-warming smile, but do not know what to do after that and might end up hurting them.
• Libra guys are big-time flirts and prefer girls with external beauty, rather than a pure heart.
• Libra men are perfectionists and are always in search for the perfect partner.
• Once the Libra man in love believes to have found true love, he always stays faithful and loyal to his woman
• Libra men are attracted to a comfortable and luxurious life. They like everything beautiful and love to lead a lavish life.
• Women are said to fall for their smile, as Libra men are said to have the cutest and most charming of smiles.
• The other thing that make women comfortable with them is they are very understanding and extremely good listeners. They are very affectionate lovers and extremely romantic too.
• Libra men are attracted to women who are out going and fun to be with. They desire partners with whom they can connect both intellectually as well as emotionally.
• They have no qualms in showing their love overtly, and once Libra men find their true love, there is no stopping them from showering their beloved with love and happiness.
• Libra men love women who are attractive and confident.
• They like women who are strong and dominating in a relationship.
• Libra men love to hear praises about themselves from others and the best thing to make them fall in love with you is to shower them with compliments whenever you can.
• They love to be flattered and it also helps in enhancing their self confidence.
• As Libra men are very conscious about beauty and style, it is very important for you to dress up well every time you meet them.
• So, if you want to attract a Libra man, you have to take extra care about the way you look and dress.
• Libra men are said to be compatible with almost all other zodiac signs because of their understanding nature.
• Libra men are lovers of peace and harmony and so they hate conflicts arising in their relationships.
• Due to this, they usually try to avoid talking about such things and it is very unlikely for a Libra man to break up with his partner if some problem arises in the relationship.
• A Libra man in love has to be constantly assured about his partner's love, so adorn your lover's life with fun and romance. If you are a person who is looking for everlasting relationship, then the Libra man would be perfect for you.
• Libra men are sensual, imaginative lovers, and woman who share sexual pleasures with them are sure to be delighted.
• He is a smart man, who dresses with good taste and smells good.
• Beauty is very important to him, both of ideas and aspect.
• The Libra man is a sociable, kind and courteous man, with a deep sense of justice and fair play.
• he Libra man is a romantic. They say the troubadour in love with his Lady will not die as long as there are Libra men in the world. Mr. Libra’s romanticism requires champagne, waltz and moonlight. He loves beautiful and feminine women, who are a little mysterious and inaccessible...
• Faithfulness is not his strong point because he is vulnerable to women, he falls in love very easily and he can’t say no.
• The problem is that the Libra man can’t decide to break up with somebody, accepting compromises, because his inner harmony resents crises and reproaches.
• Libra men are known for placing the happiness of their partner above their own fulfillment.

• A Libra man in love is fiercely loyal and can often stay committed to one woman their entire lives. If you long for a devoted man who takes love seriously, a man born under this astrological sign is right for you.
• He needs to be certain that the woman he adores loves him just as much. He may ask you for reassurance of your feelings from time-to-time. It's important that you are patient and willing to talk to him about how deeply connected to him you feel.
• Women who are slightly aggressive and those comfortable taking the first step in a relationship will generally appeal to a Libra man.
• A Libra man in love wants to be connected on every level to the woman he's with. He's interested in being intimate often and loves a woman who is just as enthusiastic in this area as he is. Being with a man like this means you should be flirtatious and fun. You must know how to laugh and enjoy life. Boring women just don't fit well in the lives of Libra men.

How to Be a Good Girlfriend

• Don’t Rush
• First of all, take things slowly. Don’t make him rush into things. Let him take his time to introduce you as his girlfriend. Agreed, marriage is a very important part of the relationship, but don’t remind him so on a daily basis. Just go with the flow and let time take its course.

• Be Independent
  Yes, he is a very important part of your life, but please don’t center your life on him. Have a life of your own, spend sometime with yourself, hang out with friends and attend family functions. Being there for him when he needs you is definitely desired, but don’t keep clinging on to him.

• Appreciate
  Appreciate him for what he is and don’t be constantly on the look for habits that you can criticize. Don’t try to change him completely. Remember, this is the same man who made you fall in love.

• Have a Mind of Your Own
  It is not necessary that you should agree to what he says and disagree to what he doesn’t like. Have a mind of you own. Two people, who live together, have a difference of opinion on many issues and it is very natural too. However, please do not oppose him in everything he says.

• Space
  Remember, both of you are different individuals and have a life beyond each other too. Let him have his share of independence & space in a relationship. Having a night-out with the boys, once in a while, is good for him. Again, too much space is also not too good. After all, both of you are a couple.

• Be Cheerful
  No guy likes a girl who is a cry baby. Once in a while, all of us get emotional and end up crying, but do not make it a regular feature. Infact, guys like girls who have a good sense of humor. Have the ability to laugh at yourself.

• Share His Interests
  No, we are not asking you to start lifting his 10 kilo dumbbells. Nonetheless, try to share his interest in cricket, football, or any other area. You can watch a game with him every now and then, trying to understand the game from him. If you don’t overdo it, I’m sure he will love explaining the nuances to you.

• Pamper Him
  Most of the guys are pampered by their mums and if your guy is in the majority, it is your turn to pamper him. Do small things for him like cleaning his room, getting his laundry washed, cooking his food, etc. It will show how much you care for him & there are all the chances of his responding likewise.

• Have Self Respect
  Guys like girls who hold their ground and do not take crap from anyone. Nobody is asking you to have an inflated ego, but never ever compromise on your self-respect either. He will respect you only if you respect yourself.

• Be His Friend
  You have moved on from being ‘just friends’ to being a ‘couple’. Still, this does not mean that you will forget the ‘friend part’ of your relationship. Make sure to keep the friendship in the love alive.

• Communicate
  Your boyfriend is a human being, not a magician, who will get to know your feeling on his own. Whether you are happy, sad or hurt, talk to him! You don’t need to tell him every detail of an incident, but please don’t keep him in the dark either. Never ever stop communicating with him.

• Be Expressive
  Though guys deny it, they love reading romantic messages, receiving gifts, getting hugs, etc. Please be expressive in a relationship. He knows that you love him, but expressing it will keep the romance in the relationship alive.

• Consistency and Patience
  This is one thing most of the girls lack. Do not keep shuttling between different moods and emotions. Be consistent in your feelings and moods. Do not jump to conclusion. Be patient and hear him out before saying anything.

How to Keep a Boyfriend

Steps:

• Always be confident around him. Guys love girls who are confident in themselves.
• Cuddle with him. Bury yourself in him. Make his warmth your warmth.
• Take care of yourself. Don't do things that could compromise the way you look or feel.
• Take an interest in his friends. They may become your friends.
• Try having deep conversations with him. If he is a deep thinker he will react properly and find you more interesting instead of thinking you are someone who always talks about the same shallow subjects. Communicate with him; be open to him about anything.
• Trust him in every way, but only if he has earned your trust. Always be honest with him (and yourself). Never lie to him or keep secrets from him.
• Support him through good and bad days. Just be there for him in any way you can.
• Respect him the way you wish to be respected. Don't hurt, abuse, or neglect him in any way.
• Make time for him and plan activities you will both enjoy.
• Have your own personal time, separate from him when you pursue your own passions. Don't sacrifice this time or your time with friends for your boyfriend. It will show him that you are interesting and respect yourself.
• Give, or make, something for him to remember you by.
• Tell him that you love him, and that he is the only one you want.
• When saying good bye make sure you kiss him, hug him, and whisper in his ear you love him. Do not, however, behave in a clingy fashion.

Tips:

• Laugh a lot, but don't be fake. When you laugh, mean it.
• Be yourself. Don't change after you start going out. He asked you out for you, not for anyone else.
• If you are happy to be with him, let him know. Smile often and let him know that your smile is all because of him.
• Still flirt; don't give up just because you think you have him for good.
• If you become friends with his friends, don't flirt or let them flirt with you. When a guy sees this, it makes him insecure and he worries if one of his friends is giving you dirt on him. If one of his friends has the hots for you, completely ignore them. The boyfriend is not mad at you, but the friend.
• Very important!-Don't worry about things. If you worry too much he will be under the impression you don't trust him.

Warnings:

• Don't crowd him, be paranoid, and constantly call or bug him. He may feel smothered by you.
• Don't be whiny, needy, or overprotective.
• Don't tell him you don't like his friends. He'll choose them over you.
• Don't expect him to know what you're feeling. Express yourself.
• Don't be obsessive.
• Don't go out with any other boy while you’re in a relationship.
• Don't be over possessive regarding him. He may not like it.
• Don't be selfish and self-centered. Think about him also, what he might want, and not just about yourself.
• Don't be clingy. its a HUGE turn-off
• Don't tell him your WHOLE life in such a hurry. be some-what mysterious